Ivy Blog
Westy’s Wish: An Open Letter from the Wife of NBA Hall of Famer, Paul Westphal
- April 23, 2021
- Ivy Center
- Posted in Patient Stories
- Comments: 11
I met my husband, Paul, on a blind date. I was a California girl attending the University of Arizona and he was a student playing basketball for the University of Southern California. For the next five decades, we had quite the journey. As a professional athlete and then coach, Paul’s career took us across the country, and the world. We experienced life and raised a family together in whatever city basketball landed us.
Paul had a quick wit about him, was thoughtful, and always put others first. He was active, fun, and especially loved being a grandpa. That’s why I knew something was wrong last June when he started saying things that were out of character for him and began acting confused. He was sleeping 16-18 hours a day, losing weight like crazy, and felt uncoordinated. An athlete describing himself as uncoordinated? Something was terribly wrong.
At first we thought he might not be getting enough oxygen and worried he had a heart problem. We scheduled a visit with a cardiologist in Los Angeles, two hours away from where we were spending the summer in the mountains. Before we got to the appointment, I knew it was going to be something else – something worse. When we checked into the hotel near the clinic, Paul wouldn’t let go of my hand. “This place is so big, it makes me nervous,” he said. Paul had traveled the world and was more than accustomed to large hotels and arenas. Something just wasn’t right.
Following tests, the cardiologist confirmed Paul’s heart was as strong as ever and arranged for him to see a neurologist.
A week later, an MRI found two masses in his brain. Surgery two days later confirmed those masses were in fact tumors. They could remove one, but the doctors said the second was inoperable. It was glioblastoma, the most deadly form of brain cancer and for which there is no cure. They gave him no more than 18 months to live. Radiation and chemotherapy started immediately. Team Westy, our group of friends and family who supported us throughout it all, was there for him every hour, every minute of the day to meet all his considerable needs.
When Team Westy drove Paul across the desert back home to Scottsdale in mid-September, he was transitioned to a local neuro-oncologist’s care where his body was able to rest from his recent radiation and chemo. When it was time for standard treatment to continue, he’d have no more radiation but chemo that would wipe him out. Paul had no quality of life whatsoever. None. Down for the count. There had to be a better way! Time for a second opinion.
I reached out to the Barrow Neurological Institute. I heard back from Dr. Nader Sanai, director of the Ivy Brain Tumor Center at Barrow. He gave me his private cell number and said to call whenever I needed. I was blown away. A world renowned neurosurgeon really does this? Yes. This one does.
Team Westy joined Paul and myself for our first meeting with Dr. Sanai via Zoom. We sat together with Paul around the table hanging on the doctor’s every word, making sure we all understood what we were hearing. Dr. Sanai informed us that Paul qualified for an Ivy Phase 0 clinical trial evaluating a promising new drug cocktail. He also said he could remove the second tumor that had been previously deemed inoperable. We were shocked! The tumor was the size of a kiwi and in the middle of the brain, but he explained how he could remove most of it. The surgery carried risks, but the clinical trial gave us hope we couldn’t find anywhere else. Paul understood what he’d need to go through and said yes. Team Westy agreed.
We quickly experienced the warmth, compassion, and personal attention of Barrow. We could see firsthand that the doctors actively care about patients and their families. It is absolutely world-class care both medically and personally.
The 12-hour operation on December 10 was considered a success. Dr. Sanai removed 95% of the tumor, more than he had expected. The next day, Paul was walking and able to feed himself without help. There was no paralysis, one of the risks of brain surgery. He was joking around and was looking forward to going to therapy. His prognosis was promising.
But December 23, a clot formed in Paul’s heart and worked its way up to his brain. I wasn’t ready for him to go, this fast, this soon but God had other plans. He left this world peacefully, into the loving arms of his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Paul was a believer and never afraid of death. He was ready for whenever that day would come. January 2, 2021 at 8:05 am PST was his appointed day and hour.
I asked Dr. Sanai if he would speak at Paul’s Celebration of Life and he graciously accepted. He eloquently described the “cocktail” of drugs that were given to Paul before surgery and the large amount found in the tumor at pathology – a thrilling success. But then that blood clot happened. He went on to speak of how the Ivy Brain Tumor Center is aggressively devoted to rapidly identifying new treatment options for glioblastoma and other malignant brain tumors through the largest Phase 0 clinical trials program in the world.
I hope you’ll join me in my support for the Ivy Brain Tumor Center and their mission to contribute to a cure for brain cancer within this decade. They will need our help.
Please consider making a tax-deductible donation to fuel this research. When you contribute to Barrow, 100% of your donation is directed to supporting critical research and compassionate care at the Ivy Brain Tumor Center. A generous donor has offered to match all donations! Your impact will be doubled as you support Dr. Sanai and his team as they care for their patients and seek the elusive answers that will remove the death sentence from a diagnosis of glioblastoma.
Gratefully,
Cindy Westphal
This story is for general health information only and is not meant to be used as medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please consult your physician or healthcare provider before beginning any treatment protocol or with any questions. This story reflects the health status of this particular patient at the time the story was written and photographs were taken. The patient’s condition may have changed over time.
11 Replies to “Westy’s Wish: An Open Letter from the Wife of NBA Hall of Famer, Paul Westphal”
Harriet Maccracken
This is a beautifully written letter. It does a wonderful job of showing the kind of care patients and their families receive at the Ivy Brain Tumor Center. It is not just world class medical care one receives, but also compassion and hope. I think everyone who goes to Ivy receives the same level of care, I know my family has. We will be forever grateful to the entire staff.
Ardee Burno Jr
Outstanding letter!
He was a great player to watch! He was the Suns!
Mike McDonald
As an athlete, I loved Paul Westphal. I followed his career since USC … playing and coaching over the years. My faith is sorely tested each time bad things happen to good people, but I do rejoice … he’s already home. Requiescat in Pace, dear Paul.
Lynn
Glioblastoma is horrid. I lost a mother-in-law and a stepdad because of this dreaded cancer. I am happy that you got Mr. Westphal back for a while before he passed. I wish it was more at the forefront of the cancer research… It is just so heartbreaking.
Prayers to all of you.
Lynn Bradford
Michigan
Ivy Center
We are so sorry for your loss. We’re working very hard to discover new treatments that will work for these patients.
Denise
My sister died of this same cancer. She was only able to fight it for two months before she passed away.
Ivy Center
We are so sorry to hear about your sister! It is truly a devastating disease and we won’t stop until we find a cure.
Judith RINEHART
I followed Paul and his career since he was a player. He was truly “one of the good guys” !!
Darlene Prewitt
Thank you for your touching letter of awareness for this type of cancer and your apparent love for your husband. May God in His infinite wisdom open the door for a cure. God bless you and the rest of your family.
Toni Doilney
My husband, Mike Doilney, was a strong, healthy and athletic man. We were married for 53 years. He died from glioblastoma November 2020. We had several surgeries at barrow, radiation, chemo and other experimental treatments. He put up the good fight for a year and a half. We moved back to utah to be close to family in the midst of the pandemic. I hope in years to come we figure out a way to combat this dreadful cancer.
Shirley Wagner
Dear Cindy,
I too lost my husband from Glioblastoma and he was treated at Ivy Brain Tumor Center. My husband was a cardiologist in Tucson, Arizona and knew too well the path of this deadly disease. The physicians at Barrows and the caring staff were amazing. They gave him a dignified quality of life before the disease took him to Heaven in 2017. Thank God for the professionals and caring staff at this amazing institute!
Comments are closed.